“If you like it, then you should have put a ring on it”
So recently, a friend shared a story with me about a girl he used to date. This girl and him had only been dating for a couple weeks when she pulled at the ultimate crazy girl move: hinting at wanting to get married.
One day, they were watching TV with his room mate and a commercial for a jewelry store came on and she said something along the lines of “Well, I already have my ring if SOMEONE would just ask me the question”.
I feel like at that point, a big flag should have been lowered and an alarm should have gone off that screamed “RED FLAG”.
I think a lot of women don’t understand what asking that question actually means. To a lot of women, it means putting on a pretty gown, wearing a flashy ring, and having everyone stare at you for a day. This my friends, is why over half of marriages ends in divorce. We are just NOT understanding it’s purpose.
I’m not going to lie, my wedding was one of the greatest days of my life. It was nice to actually dress up like a girl and feel like the most beautiful woman in the world, but that was only because I knew the guy that I was marrying would support me and love me. The wedding was just another perk to our relationship. I knew it wasn’t going to be a lifetime full of perfection, but would be hard and sometimes suck REALLY bad but I knew I was with a good person to overcome these obstacles.
I think some people will never be ready for this type of commitment, and that’s fine. It’s not made for everyone. With my husband and I, we had been together long enough to know that we could get through some pretty tough times and still love each other and want to be together. For us, it was the next logical step to starting our lives together.
Women, just chill out. You shouldn’t have to FORCE a guy to propose to you, or let alone, BUY YOUR OWN RING. That’s bananas. Especially after only a few weeks of dating. I hate to break it to you, but most people don’t know they are going to marry someone after only a few weeks. Just because a guy isn’t hinting at marriage right away, doesn’t mean it isn’t in the back of his mind. If he’s a decent guy, or at least the type of guy you should marry, he wouldn’t be just dating you for fun, but to potentially find his wife.
